Lifestyle tips

With peace and love, but you'll have to adjust your expectations.

My partner is about 400 lbs, give or take. He's 6'2" and, like you, belly-heavy. He gets around just fine, but his mobility would suffer if he were more than a foot shorter.

If you reached 400 lbs, you'd be screwed. Your mobility would take a huge hit. Clothing would be a nightmare to find. You'd be too round for certain medical procedures like MRIs and CT scans. And you'd absolutely rack up medical bills dealing with spinal issues. My belly-heavy feedee has some mild spinal issues we think are due to his girth. I can't imagine how much worse it would be for you.

My advice is to take things one day at a time. Don't worry about number goals. Those are fickle and not realistic for everyone. Gain until it's no longer comfortable for you to do so—whatever that might look like.

Understandable. However, there's a difference between accepting your mobility taking a hit versus having next to no mobility.

A lot of times when people start gaining, they have grand, unrealistic fantasies. Then when reality sinks in, a lot of them end up abandoning the whole thing because they can't achieve their dreams. If you want to be your fattest self long-term, it's good to sort that out early.

Exercise and stretch/ stay active.
You can gain weight and not be sedentary.
I walk each evening or walk horses for about 30 mins.
I'm fat and flabby so deff not toned LOL

No reason not to at least try to stay flexible and be fat at the same time.

I deal with compulsive over eating disorder and I have spells where I eat constantly/ binge eat.
Weight gain always happens a month later of course.
I had a binge eating spell early this year but haven't had one lately.
My weight fluctuates all the time.

Oh not to worry.
I'm a big eater anyway and don't care if I gain when a binging spell hits.
I enjoy being fat and made the choice to be this way years ago.

I was an active gainer for years and stayed around 325lbs for a few years then my long term BF moved out west.
I was bummed to say the least and that is probably when the eating disorders began.
At least thats what my Dr thinks.
Life is good so I don't let it bother me these days

I want to add that while you can safely gain without triggering your ED, it's imperative that your feeder(s) give you the proper support. They need to give you space to enjoy yourself while stepping in as needed.

What that looks like varies from relationship to relationship (even if it's just a feedist relationship). For some, that might mean mixing healthy food with junk food, encouraging light exercise, or occasionally taking breaks.

You seem to be interested in extreme feedism. It's the riskiest kind of feedism, so safeguards are extra important. A good feeder will always keep your well-being in mind, but you also need to advocate for your needs.

I bring this up because it's really common to get lost in hedonism or for one person (often the feeder) to ignore limits.

I'm not saying this to rain on your parade. I hope you get very fat and enjoy yourself. I want you to enjoy your fatness for many years to come.